Kinky Temperature Play Acts to Heat Up Your Sex Life

by TeamOperation

Some like it hot, and some have got chills that are multiplyin’! Temperature play is a great way to make the most of your full bodily senses and can be an erotic exploration all by itself or a pleasurable prelude to toe-curling orgasms. Whether you’re a newcomer or an expert in all things hot and cold, these tips and tricks for safe temperature play are sure to have your whole body shivering with delight!

What is temperature play?

Temperature play involves using hot or cold stimuli on your body to elicit a delicious pain-pleasure response that teases and tantalises your senses. The new sensations can heighten arousal and refresh your routine in the bedroom, whether you’re riding solo or playing with a partner.

Why do people enjoy temperature play?

Your skin is a super sensitive and sensual organ that plays a huge role in sensation and arousal. Have you ever held an ice cube and felt your skin tingle at its touch, or lit a match and felt the flame’s heat creeping closer and closer to your finger? When rapid temperature changes occur in a concentrated area of your body, your mind can’t help but fixate on these sensations, immediately giving way to this gateway of pleasure. Using temperature with deliberate confidence (especially around erogenous zones) can ignite a sexual response that ripples throughout the body, leaving you or your lucky lover breathless!

How to stay safe during temperature play

Like many other kinks, some of the more hardcore activities in this category can be dangerous if you’re not properly prepared or experienced enough, so it’s important to go at your own pace when exploring what you’re comfortable with. We’ve also compiled a checklist of safety considerations you should keep in mind to ensure a pleasurable experience:

Safety Checklist

  • Establish safewords with your partner before diving in.
  • Try to exclusively use candles and sex toys that are made specifically for temperature play.
  • Avoid putting toys in the microwave to heat them.
  • Be careful with how close you hold a melting candle to the recipient’s body - the shorter the distance the wax falls, the hotter the heat!
  • Patch test all temperatures on your wrist before applying to a more sensitive part of the body.
  • Frozen ice cubes can stick to sensitive body parts and sharp edges can hurt the skin, which you might not notice due to ice’s natural numbing effects. Let ice thaw a little until it feels wet and glides smoothly over the skin for the best experience.
  • Exercise caution when inserting chilled or heated objects - extreme temperatures in the vaginal or anal area can lead to shock in rare instances, especially over long play sessions.
  • Take care when playing with naked flames around hair, sheets, or curtains.

With the important stuff out of the way, now we’re ready to get down to business!

Hot (and cool) things you can do that count as temperature play

Wax play and ice play

These two mediums are among the most popular for temperature play beginners and experts alike and it’s easy to see why. You’ll love the way your partner’s back arches as you rub a slick, wet ice cube over their erect nipples, or how they shudder as you let melted wax drip...drip...drip oh-so-tantalisingly up their thighs…

The wax from normal tea lights or home decor candles may contain non-skin safe ingredients and are too hot for most people, which can cause burns or scalding. Massage candles and wax play candles are often made of soy or paraffin and are specifically designed to burn and melt at a lower temperature for safe use on skin. Not only can you enjoy them without the risk of hurting yourself or your partner, they also smell great and add a sensual ambience to your steamy encounter!

Combine temperature play with bondage & kink

Is there anything more erotic than watching your bound lover pull helplessly against their restraints as their body writhes in pleasure with every sensation? Temperature play is a perfect companion to Bondage Play and there are plenty of creative ways you can combine them to coax contented moans from your lover’s lips, including warming massage oils and cooling arousal gels that will drive them wild! You can even combine it with sensory deprivation play by placing a blindfold on your lover to intensify the stimulation and make it impossible for them to focus on anything else. This keeps them guessing with an intoxicating game of sensory delights and, in addition to the element of surprise, not being able to see what’s happening and/or being restrained can be a huge turn-on.

Turn your lover into a delicious feast and devour them

Food can be a sensual delight for more than just the mouth! You might be surprised at how many fun and sexually spontaneous ingredients live in your fridge or pantry! Try topping your lover’s erogenous zones like the breasts, nipples, penis, and clitoris with cool whipped cream, or drizzling warm, melted chocolate over their skin before slurping up the trail of sweet juices, peppering in little nibbles here and there. You can even add to the experience by heating or cooling your mouth with a warm drink or by sucking on an ice cube before going down on them! Just be sure to take care if inserting food as it can get stuck, affect PH balances, or cause yeast infections if it contains sugar. For a delicious body-safe treat that will send shivers down their spine, why not pop some flavoured lubricant in the fridge beforehand? We especially love the guilt- and calorie-free range of fruity and dessert flavoured lubricants from JO!

Use temperature play sex toys

Some sex toys know how to turn up the heat in the bedroom in more ways than one! We carry a range of specially designed warming toys like that come with built-in heating functions to fill you with a radiating warmth that spreads through you like a satisfying afterglow, session after session. Intensify the sensation with some of our warming lubricants, or you can use cooling lubricants without the heating function turned on to experience the full temperature spectrum!

Transform your current sex toys into temperature play toys

Want to work with what you’ve already got? No problem. The best toys for temperature play are made of materials that retain hot and cold temperatures well, including:

  • Glass Toys: Glass is a safe material for both heat and cold play, making it an ultra-versatile choice for temperature play. They’re also exquisitely designed and among the most beautiful sex toys on the market. Placing your glass toy into a bowl of ice water will give you all the same sensations as ice, but without the risk of skin sticking.
  • Metal Toys: Metal is a great conductor of heat and cold, making it a solid choice for temperature play. Medical-grade stainless steel and aluminium are usually the safest and best quality options, especially for long-term use. Metal also tends to be heavier in weight, which can be a bonus if you’re trying to achieve a full-feeling pressure that hits all the right spots. Feeling adventurous? Try out a metal butt plug or the Mistress by Isabella Sinclaire Wartenburg Pinwheel! As you roll the wheel across the skin it delivers prickling pleasures, which can be enhanced and intensified by heating or cooling the wheel.
  • Silicone Toys: Silicone is a non-porous material that is one of the most common materials used for sex toys since it’s body-safe, versatile, easy to clean, and feels amazing against the skin. Silicone toys can also be used for temperature play, though they’re not as effective at conducting temperature changes as glass or metal, and you need to take care not to expose any motors or mechanical parts to extreme temperatures as this can damage the toy.

Now that you know what toys are best for temperature play, here’s how to chill or heat them:

  • Chilling sex toys: If your toy is waterproof, submerge it in a glass or bowl of cold or ice water until it reaches your desired temperature. You can also put non-waterproof toys in a zip-lock bag and submerge, or use the fridge or freezer to cool them down. If freezing, make sure you allow time to defrost so the toy doesn’t stick to or damage delicate skin. 
  • Heating sex toys: Submerge the toy in a bowl of hot water (with or without a zip-lock bag depending on your toy’s waterproofing) until it is hot enough to stimulate you but not hot enough to burn.

Have fun!

As long as you and your partner exercise caution where necessary, you’re sure to love the heightened sensations and extra fun temperature play can inject into your bedroom fun! Have fun cranking up the heat and remember to stay cool!


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